Roni Cohen Leiderman, an educator working for the Florida Supreme Court (USA), said that while the concept of discipline may seem daunting to parents, it may not necessarily be.
According to her, discipline is more than simply rewards and punishments. "It's as simple as teaching kids and encouraging them to make safe choices, but when you type in 'discipline' on the internet, you'll find a lot of do's and don'ts, as well as too many. method.
In today's era, the problem of discipline for children is becoming more and more complicated. Most children use social media; Many children each time spend many hours on social networks. Although thanks to social networks, many children have had the opportunity to develop relationships and acquire more knowledge, but along with that are potential risks, such as addiction to using the Internet, accessing inappropriate websites. healthy, being bullied online.
Whatever the reason children need discipline education, there are five main types of discipline to help children develop good qualities.
Positive discipline, as the name suggests, is when parents use sincerity and respect for their children to create an atmosphere that is safe for both of them.
According to Ms. Leiderman, the positive discipline approach encourages children to behave gently, politely, respectfully and thoughtfully; while parents must also show those qualities when setting limits for their children. This method focuses on reinforcing the child's positive behaviors, rather than just fixing the mistakes.
For example, if you want your child to spend less time playing video games, you can say, "We'll be happy if you tell us about the plot of the new book. Turn off the computer and read the book. , then tell your parents."
Ms. Leiderman explains that this is an effective way to induce children to change, instead of scolding them for spending too much time online.
Like positive discipline, gentle discipline also creates a safe atmosphere for children, but at the same time helps children understand the limits of what is allowed. This method makes children realize that parents understand their feelings, from which children will respect their parents' rules more.
An important aspect of this approach is accepting all of your children's emotions, and then teaching them how to manage negative emotions, such as anger, frustration, and sadness.
For example, say, "We know you're sad because you still want to use the computer. But it's too late now, please turn off the computer and go to sleep."
Discipline based on boundaries
Boundary-based discipline is one of the most recommended methods by many experts today. This method makes children aware of the consequences of negative actions.
If children are exposed to consequences throughout their upbringing, then discipline based on boundaries will make children willing to follow the rules of the parents.
Ms. Leiderman also pointed out that, when applying this method, parents need to pay attention to the age of the child.
When kids are young, make simple rules like, "You need to wear a seat belt in the car, then you can use the iPad."
For older children, they need to be involved in the discussion with their parents: "We want you to jointly decide how much time you spend on the computer. We want you to accept the consequences if you don't do it right. regulations".
Behavior modification is similar to boundary-based discipline, but combines rewards when children perform well, and punishments when children misbehave.
The important thing about this method is that parents must not use violence or hate on their children. Instead, praise and reward your child's good behavior; ignore or help children understand the consequences of negative behavior.
Emotional guidance encourages children to have clear perceptions of their own feelings as well as those of their parents.
By accepting all of the child's feelings, even when the child is angry, parents should gently advise their children, letting them know that you understand their feelings too. This will help them feel loved and protected.
An example of this approach is: "I know you're angry because you have to turn off the computer. We understand, so calm down, and then let's go to the park as a family."